Sometimes it is really hard to be as perceptive as I am...
At one point in my life, that is something I certainly couldn't say.
I am still not always as considerate as I could be, but I am always as polite as I can be, if that makes any sense.
I think the women at work are planning to surprise me, our birthday is coming up and my twin is less than 6 hours away from getting on a plane to come spend our birthday week together. I don't know exactly what they are planning, but the gesture all the same is a kind one.
Something that I appreciate about my colleagues is, now that they have a firmer grasp of MY skillset, I feel like they have more respect for my style. I like to consider myself the ideal customer service representative, I train the people around me to want to be more like me in 1 regard or another. Not that I am the ultimate ideal, by any means, there are just some ways that I do things that beg to be emulated. One recent "Pop your collar" moment, was at our 1st staff meeting of the year, I am the junior member of our work group. Our manager said, and I am paraphrasing here, " we should all do like N$ does, when she does "her thing" don't you all look up or do you keep doing what you are doing?" Now, keep in mind, there are enough, don't do like N$ moments at work too. I am human!
My sis is coming to SEE me! My sis is coming to SEE me! My sis is coming to SEE me! I am SOOO excited! I know the next 10 days will FLY by! And I am going to enjoy as much of it as humanly possible! I was telling one of my friends that she was going to have the chance to meet my sister and she was amazed that I was going to share my sister with her, I couldn't think of a better way of letting my people know me, than to know the person that means SO much to me! Of course, I will share, but she can't have her to herself!
I don't know if I will sleep tonight,
But I will try!
'Til Next time!
N$
Thursday, January 22, 2009
Monday, January 19, 2009
My Martin Luther King Jr day 2009
Yesterday I had a "Lazy Day"...
Not that MOST people would even call it a lazy day, I DO STILL have twin toddlers.
But I decided not to worry with housework or laundry, but just to hang out with my daughters.
I felt extremely guilty! My husband spent a day off Friday and didn't do a THING, nothing, not a dish not a single load of laundry. He did put some fluid of some sort into his truck but that amounts to brushing your teeth, something he can do with his eyes closed.
I came home with the twins and proceeded to cook dinner, no big deal, I didn't ask him to cook and he didn't know if I had anything planned, no worries, this is an everyday thing. At dinner I asked him about his day, my way of making my point without nagging, I HATE to be called a nag and insubordinate (different story) , kind of like Hancock's dislike of being called an asshole. I mentioned that I would have really appreciated it if he had emptied the dish washer for me, and politely asked him if he would do it for me tonight, please. He did, somewhat begrudgingly, but he didn't let on about that until the following day.
I mentioned to my friend the details I just described and she tells me she would have fussed and complained. One thing I have learned in the 5 years 2 months of marriage, is that fussing and complaining doesn't have to be the norm, at least with MY spouse. I know what works for me and him for that matter. I have realized that in the past I didn't voice my concerns about things around the house until I exploded in frustration and streams of profanity flowed from my mouth like hot molten lava laying waste to the nearby country side. I am at least conscience enough to focus on the situation at hand and I have never attacked my husband's manhood or fatherhood. But I have pointed out to him that he does only what he wants to do around the house and that what he doesn't do doesn't fall back to him, it falls back to me, and what I don't do, waits until I get a chance to do it. I said that to him 4 months ago and there has been a marked difference in how he approached housework and the laundry. I still must ask if I want to see the vacuum in action not under my own power, but he will load that washing machine and put up some clothes!! Yeah, COME TO MAMA!!!
There is NOTHING like seeing your man do housework. I don't care what your "thing" is for a turn on, but have him wash dished and clothes so you don't have to worry about it, is AWESOME! I tell you, it is especially potent if the actions are unrequested and spontaneous! It is a wonderful feeling.
After HIS day off, I did some volunteer work at the thrift store and he was home alone with the twins. He got and enviable amount of work done around the house, and they were asleep when I got home, down for a GOOD nap. (something I couldn't get them to take today to save my LIFE, even after having them walk over a mile!) He tells me tonight after dinner that he walks the "Dog mess out of them" when he has them and works them "like Ethiopians for a meal" which elicited screams of laughter from me.
He cracks me up. It is good that we can laugh together since he hates it out here so completely and with a burning passion. Being out here can make or break a relationship. It is bad enough for military personnel anyway... who knows I wasn't in a position to see the ugly fights and ill will people have towards their soon to be X spouses, like I am working at the bank here on post. People just do some mean things to people they once said they loved, it is heart breaking to see. Makes me come home and tell my husband how much I love him.
Well today, I had a "plan" after the twins got into their hair grease and my make-up, I had some steam cleaning to do, so I did that while they played on my bed. I got them dressed to go to the park, I met another mom and her kids and we walked to another friends house and we all walked to the farthest park with the nicest playground. Good for everyone. I thought that a couple hours of play and a good long walk would knock them out, Not so much! The are asleep now, at 7pm, but that is sheer exhaustion since they didn't sleep this afternoon, when we got home. I'll take that...
I know the husband wasn't thrilled about me mentioning the dishes, because the way that he retold our conversation to me had a bit of a naggy tone, but he was just letting me know that he understood where I was coming from when I made my request. He's a keeper.
In just 4 days he will make the trip to LAX to pick up my Coley, I can't wait to see her, I am beside myself with anticipation of just being able to spend time with her.
More ramblings to come
'Til next time...
Not that MOST people would even call it a lazy day, I DO STILL have twin toddlers.
But I decided not to worry with housework or laundry, but just to hang out with my daughters.
I felt extremely guilty! My husband spent a day off Friday and didn't do a THING, nothing, not a dish not a single load of laundry. He did put some fluid of some sort into his truck but that amounts to brushing your teeth, something he can do with his eyes closed.
I came home with the twins and proceeded to cook dinner, no big deal, I didn't ask him to cook and he didn't know if I had anything planned, no worries, this is an everyday thing. At dinner I asked him about his day, my way of making my point without nagging, I HATE to be called a nag and insubordinate (different story) , kind of like Hancock's dislike of being called an asshole. I mentioned that I would have really appreciated it if he had emptied the dish washer for me, and politely asked him if he would do it for me tonight, please. He did, somewhat begrudgingly, but he didn't let on about that until the following day.
I mentioned to my friend the details I just described and she tells me she would have fussed and complained. One thing I have learned in the 5 years 2 months of marriage, is that fussing and complaining doesn't have to be the norm, at least with MY spouse. I know what works for me and him for that matter. I have realized that in the past I didn't voice my concerns about things around the house until I exploded in frustration and streams of profanity flowed from my mouth like hot molten lava laying waste to the nearby country side. I am at least conscience enough to focus on the situation at hand and I have never attacked my husband's manhood or fatherhood. But I have pointed out to him that he does only what he wants to do around the house and that what he doesn't do doesn't fall back to him, it falls back to me, and what I don't do, waits until I get a chance to do it. I said that to him 4 months ago and there has been a marked difference in how he approached housework and the laundry. I still must ask if I want to see the vacuum in action not under my own power, but he will load that washing machine and put up some clothes!! Yeah, COME TO MAMA!!!
There is NOTHING like seeing your man do housework. I don't care what your "thing" is for a turn on, but have him wash dished and clothes so you don't have to worry about it, is AWESOME! I tell you, it is especially potent if the actions are unrequested and spontaneous! It is a wonderful feeling.
After HIS day off, I did some volunteer work at the thrift store and he was home alone with the twins. He got and enviable amount of work done around the house, and they were asleep when I got home, down for a GOOD nap. (something I couldn't get them to take today to save my LIFE, even after having them walk over a mile!) He tells me tonight after dinner that he walks the "Dog mess out of them" when he has them and works them "like Ethiopians for a meal" which elicited screams of laughter from me.
He cracks me up. It is good that we can laugh together since he hates it out here so completely and with a burning passion. Being out here can make or break a relationship. It is bad enough for military personnel anyway... who knows I wasn't in a position to see the ugly fights and ill will people have towards their soon to be X spouses, like I am working at the bank here on post. People just do some mean things to people they once said they loved, it is heart breaking to see. Makes me come home and tell my husband how much I love him.
Well today, I had a "plan" after the twins got into their hair grease and my make-up, I had some steam cleaning to do, so I did that while they played on my bed. I got them dressed to go to the park, I met another mom and her kids and we walked to another friends house and we all walked to the farthest park with the nicest playground. Good for everyone. I thought that a couple hours of play and a good long walk would knock them out, Not so much! The are asleep now, at 7pm, but that is sheer exhaustion since they didn't sleep this afternoon, when we got home. I'll take that...
I know the husband wasn't thrilled about me mentioning the dishes, because the way that he retold our conversation to me had a bit of a naggy tone, but he was just letting me know that he understood where I was coming from when I made my request. He's a keeper.
In just 4 days he will make the trip to LAX to pick up my Coley, I can't wait to see her, I am beside myself with anticipation of just being able to spend time with her.
More ramblings to come
'Til next time...
Wednesday, January 14, 2009
Just another day
Dear Reader,
Today was an uneventful day...
Got the twins together for school after getting dressed myself, I guess that could be considered an event in my day since, I am usually the 1st person up and the LAST person dressed, (Bill going to PT doesn't count) when we are getting ready for any time out of the house. Normally I will get up do my "bio" thing, brush my teeth, etc and get the twin's clothes and breakfast together. Dress them, feed them, prop them in front of a television with Noggin or Nick Jr playing and get my self dressed in the 26 mins it takes for the program to run, yeah, it is close to a science, almost... Sometimes you just can't tell with the attention span of 2 year olds... it really can vary wildly.
I started wearing make-up to work a couple of months ago, I have the make-up, i kinda know how to wear it, so I figure I will put it to good use, before it turns into dust. The women at work don't care enough about me to comment, unless I am bringing baked goods. I like the cute things I can do to make my eyes "pop" in a good way... without looking TOO made up. I really do try to keep it subtle.
MY Twin is due for a visit in 9 days! I do believe I floated off my chair a little bit just typing that! I am SO excited, I can barely STAND IT! I miss her dearly. I will only be working for 2.5 of the 10 days that she will be here, that isn't too shabby. She timed the trip VERY well. I love that about her. I have to figure out what we will do while she is out here, I know she will be glad to be here, only because I am here, but there really isn't much close by. We will make the BEST of it!
I am having a Temptations party while she is here, it will be an excellent opportunity for us to entertain together as well as do something fun. I know she will like meeting my friend and acquaintances.
Well gotta run,
'Til next time
N$
Today was an uneventful day...
Got the twins together for school after getting dressed myself, I guess that could be considered an event in my day since, I am usually the 1st person up and the LAST person dressed, (Bill going to PT doesn't count) when we are getting ready for any time out of the house. Normally I will get up do my "bio" thing, brush my teeth, etc and get the twin's clothes and breakfast together. Dress them, feed them, prop them in front of a television with Noggin or Nick Jr playing and get my self dressed in the 26 mins it takes for the program to run, yeah, it is close to a science, almost... Sometimes you just can't tell with the attention span of 2 year olds... it really can vary wildly.
I started wearing make-up to work a couple of months ago, I have the make-up, i kinda know how to wear it, so I figure I will put it to good use, before it turns into dust. The women at work don't care enough about me to comment, unless I am bringing baked goods. I like the cute things I can do to make my eyes "pop" in a good way... without looking TOO made up. I really do try to keep it subtle.
MY Twin is due for a visit in 9 days! I do believe I floated off my chair a little bit just typing that! I am SO excited, I can barely STAND IT! I miss her dearly. I will only be working for 2.5 of the 10 days that she will be here, that isn't too shabby. She timed the trip VERY well. I love that about her. I have to figure out what we will do while she is out here, I know she will be glad to be here, only because I am here, but there really isn't much close by. We will make the BEST of it!
I am having a Temptations party while she is here, it will be an excellent opportunity for us to entertain together as well as do something fun. I know she will like meeting my friend and acquaintances.
Well gotta run,
'Til next time
N$
Tuesday, January 13, 2009
Getting Started
Dear Reader,
My twin decided that she would share her blog with me tonight, and it was AWESOME!
I laughed so hard I cried, she is a very funny woman!
Reading her musings inspired me to create a few of my own, maybe this year I will keep it up... only time will tell!
I am many things, a daughter, a twin, a mother a wife, a pet owner, a home owner a mother of twins and an underpaid moderately educated over taxed and sometimes unappreciated American citizen, mostly in that order, but not exactly.
One of my favorite people is my TWIN, she is coming to see me in less than 10 days for her 1st visit to my current home in California. I CAN'T WAIT!!! I begin to BEAM with pride and joy just thinking about spending time with my COLEY COLE!!! WOOT WOOT!!
Being out here has made me appreciate the things that I took for granted in NC, like GREEN anything and a some what predictable weather forecast. No wild sickly coyotes and family within a days drive, north, south, east or west... not out here, everyone we know and LOVE is east of here and several days drive at that!
More to come, gotta get ready for the job fair!
Until next time
N$
My twin decided that she would share her blog with me tonight, and it was AWESOME!
I laughed so hard I cried, she is a very funny woman!
Reading her musings inspired me to create a few of my own, maybe this year I will keep it up... only time will tell!
I am many things, a daughter, a twin, a mother a wife, a pet owner, a home owner a mother of twins and an underpaid moderately educated over taxed and sometimes unappreciated American citizen, mostly in that order, but not exactly.
One of my favorite people is my TWIN, she is coming to see me in less than 10 days for her 1st visit to my current home in California. I CAN'T WAIT!!! I begin to BEAM with pride and joy just thinking about spending time with my COLEY COLE!!! WOOT WOOT!!
Being out here has made me appreciate the things that I took for granted in NC, like GREEN anything and a some what predictable weather forecast. No wild sickly coyotes and family within a days drive, north, south, east or west... not out here, everyone we know and LOVE is east of here and several days drive at that!
More to come, gotta get ready for the job fair!
Until next time
N$
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